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Holistic Parenting -Children-Parent Relationship
Abrar Hussain
Department of Science Education, Allama Iqbal Open University Islamabad, Pakistan.
Email: abrarhussain0307@gmail.com
Introduction
Social
interaction is one of the prime important factor that enable the children to
grow smoothly and gradually. This social interaction is achieved by living
together, in the form of family. Family is the group of people in which social
interaction starts from birth to death. In this unit of people all the resident
can share their thoughts, expressions, and activities with each other and can
create a huge opportunities for their proper grooming. In family the
relationships are maintain among all the individual and thus, enable them to
understand each other and share their opinions, that ultimately helps the
children to learn in easy and accessible way. Parents are consider the key
pillar in the building of their children, they provide all things to their children
s they need [1].
Children, below the puberty periods are very
needy for different life activities to their interactive peoples. It’s the time
in which someone can change the mind, behavior, religion, ethics, etc. of the
children and can mold to their own way. In family the closer and more time
giver to the children are their parents, which can sacrifices their single joy
for the betternes of their child. It’s very obvious that some natural disaster
are happen, unexpectedly and unintentionally [2]. During disaster like, floods, pandemic
diseases, earth quick, etc. the
responsibilities of parents become more and its important to take care of their
children in very polite and supportive ways. But unfortunately, during disaster
it is observed that the parents are fail to give a proper care to their children due to
multiple reason like, the financial status of the family, the availability of
less resources etc. such compromised parenting behavior were recently observed
in COVID-19 scenario.
For the continuity of children-parent social
interaction it is important that the family provide all those substances, sources
which keep them alive. It’s the family which help a lot in the socialization of
a child, as life experiences and family relations play key role in a healthy
children development [2]. The
interaction of children in their family become more important when the children
is in their pre-school age as this age is considered the key and crucial
developmental stage of children growth. It is also reported that this
association of children in their family can affect the child’s personality
either positive or negative [3, 4]. Parents, children and siblings combine to
make a family. Every member in this system is dependent on other, especially
when the individual is in their early sage. The individual can help in
improving psychological, social development and personality development of each
other, but can also provide shelter and protect them [5, 6]. In summary the children-parent relationship is
a unique and dominant relationship formed during the interaction of children with
their parents [13].
Holistic Parenting Approaches
Holistic parenting in a
broad sense is the mutual engaging between children and their parents to
fulfill the basic needs, enhance the three Cs, and socialized their children [14]. This holistic approach is considered the utmost important approach to
achieve the proper development of a child and make them more creative.
Needs of
children
Needs of
children are those things which are required for their proper growth,
socialization and character building. The prime responsibility of parents for
their children is the development of three Cs, in their children. These include
the development of Confidence, Creativity and Characters. These three basics
needs are achieved by different approaches. Top among them is the fulfilling’s
of the developmental needs of a children. The developmental needs of a children
are categorized into physical needs, social needs, intellectual needs and emotional
needs. All these types have their own
characteristics and properties. These needs and their properties are summarized
in figure 1.
Parent’s
responsibility
Responsibility
of the parents is not only restricted to fulfill the physical needs of their
children, but they must take care of all the needs and trying to fulfill on
time. To provide basic education to their children is also the parent’s
responsibility. Parents can educate their children directly by teaching
themselves or granting admission in schools or indirectly by various methods
like to provide open space for learning, give them time for playing to learn
from their friends etc. one of the most influential and best way to educate the
children, parents can ask questions from them like, what is this thing? If we
do this work, how it will help us? Why you do this? etc. [7]. The
beginning five years of children development, is very crucial for their
personality and social development, therefore proper communication and
relations with family or elders are the determining factor of this development [8]. Various kinds of psychological disorders may
be produced in those children which are not given enough love, care and family
attention [9]. Such
emotional problems may determine by the superiority of the contact of child experiences
in the early age. Parental characteristics like sensitivity, responsivty,
pointing, success-oriented, good relationship and loving personality can
support children’s growth [10].
Children developing in a healthy, cooperative
and joyful family setting will make them to understand the things well,
similarly those children who don’t have such friendly and healthy environment
will face problem during their adaptation and development [11]. In
the family, members are sit together and trying to find the possible way of
every problems which they face, this gathering can also affect the social,
psychological, emotional and physiological behavior of the child. Unexpected
changes and astonishing programmed taught by the family during their social
life, unable children to analyze critical situation. The family may suffer from
various life threatening situations and may destroy their family balance, but
this situation may also give a positive and dynamic solution to the existing
problems and learned by their children [12].
Strategies
to enhance parent-children relationship
Parent-children
relationships are enhanced by various methods. These methods are ranging from
small to large in term of scope and from natural to artificial ways. The best
way to strengthen this bond is to give time to the children which can
exponentially enhance this bond. The top strategies that can help to strengthen
this relationships are describe below.
Time
spending
It is
well-known that children can learn more by observation and by doing then by
teaching or listening. If the parents can spend more time with their children
they will help them to learn more positive characters.
Love
your children
It’s the
love which can change everything. If the parents treat their children with love
and polite way they will create and develop a caring potential in the children.
Give
value to your children
It is
reported that to give value to your children can make them more creative and
help them to develop the act of responsibility. This is very easy strategy and
can easily achieved.
Give
your children free time
If the
parents provide some free time (time other than study etc.) to their children
in which they can do what the children wants. Such opportunity enable them to
learn openly from their friends and society.
Opportunity
of exercising
Children are more devoted to learn from some
physical activities and from their friends. Let them to play and spend time
with their friends that can help them to complete their physical needs.
Conclusion
In
conclusion the parent-children relationship is the bidirectional interactions
that are developed for the proper growth, personality development and to
creativity development of the children. Strong the relationship can lead to more
profound results and enable the children to learn more and improve their
intrinsic characteristics. Time spending, care, love, attention, giving value
and trust are the top agents that are consider to strengthen this relationship.
